Living overseas was not part of the plan, but destiny had other plans. I landed in Buenos Aires in early 2025, to have a break from the external world, the non-stop work in the startup world in tech, from the pressure to be on camera, when behind the scenes, I was holding an armor together with a mind and body that was running on fumes.
Transparency, I was running from decades of wounds: a nervous system in survival mode, building an autonomous independence while cutting off relationships that did not nurture me, but kept me in a cycle of doubt, shame, and dimming my own life. Or, I was pressured to provide for their own needs, without considering me as a separate individual with my own boundaries and autonomy.
The transparency shared on here comes with an intent: when our culture, society, and corporate sees our emotions and our humanity as an inconvenience to appearances and societal reputation, we are choosing to perpetually contribute to an ongoing societal harm that harms us.
The truth sets us free, but most importantly, the courage to say “this stops with me,” is a selfless act to choose to go towards a life that provides peace, stability, and genuine acceptance that our humanity should never be denied, but rather expressed for the betterment of us, and in large part, our collective humanity.
The journey isn’t easy, and I am sure that my case is a complex one. In my life, I have moved places 39 times by the age of 33. I have gone through traumatic scenarios that should never happen to anybody, including being molested, sexually violated numerous times, being on the brink of death twice, escaping getting ___ and killed by a group of men while I was homeless, being betrayed and gaslit by those that were to provide safety and guidance, and other scenarios that caused for post traumatic stress disorder to become complex.
People saw the tech entrepreneur that partnered with IBM, that was on stage at MIT, that partnered with MIT-IBM AI Research Labs, that was interviewed in Davos by the US Correspondent to the Obama administration, where global governments and multi-billion dollar organizations signed business contracts, where press labeled me as visionary and a disruption in the AI field.
Yet, behind the scenes I was lonely. I was absolutely broken. Suppressing those horrifying memories until I gave myself a chance to heal, and to courageously release all the stored trauma and process it. I entered EMDR.
The trauma was so intense that my nervous system wasn’t able to handle it. And so, in March of this year it exploded.
I couldn’t walk, I was bedridden. I couldn’t make it to my kitchen without feeling I was going to faint. Panic attacks would come at night, to the point I couldn’t talk. Blood work, heart exams, crying of frustration. For the first time in a decade: my mind could not override biology. My body had said enough, and I was forced to listen and be patient.
I felt powerless. Speaking at conferences were postponed. International travel was canceled. TEDxBerkshires was confirmed, without knowing how I could be back on camera.
Between healing and recovery, crying of agony and pain from the decades of trauma stored within, I began to feel relief. I stopped denying my pain and accepted the trauma and memories were real. I would get flashbacks of uncovered memories of horrifying experiences and allowed the body to release the debt owed from running away from painful memories that began as a child.
But, upon allowing those memories to be opened, I could hear myself as a young child and toddler laughing in joy. I could access memories and feelings that suppressing trauma had also suppressed. It was a moment of liberation, while my nervous system collapsed on me.
I’m coming out with the truth because I’m ready. But also because humanity needs to know that our pain is not what defines us: our choices to choose how we lead our lives, choose who are the people that we allow into our lives, and how we process emotions is in our power.
Vulnerability is not a weakness: it is your biggest strength. Healing does not mean something is inherently wrong with you, it means that you accept your humanity and the spectrum of emotions that comes with it. Your identity does not come from your achievements, what people you know, your social status, or how you choose to appear on social media. Your identity is a construct, crafted by society to make you question your worth and drift you away from the core of who you are: a child of God with free-will. Because when we heal internally, we heal our world externally.
It’s time to stop hiding behind the pain, and start trusting yourself to be strong enough to heal. It’s not a stigma, it’s a normal part of your humanity.
As I slowly come out from sabbatical and release my new venture in AI, I hope this inspires you to choose to give yourself what you deserve: the courage needed for self-acceptance and self-love.
With much gratitude and love 💗 from Argentina 🇦🇷
